Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Jenny is getting married?! AAHHH!!!
Sorry I haven't posted anything in a while, but I will get some pictures of my recent happenings up soon. Til then, the biggest news in my life is that my little (yes little) sister, Jenny, got engaged on Friday night. She's marrying Matt Player from Nibley in January in the Logan temple. I think I'm safe to say what I'm about to because I don't think my family actually reads my blog anyway, but I'm trying really hard to be excited for her. I know that Matt is a good guy, they've been dating for over a year so they're not rushing into it and they really love each other. But I guess I'm a bit jaded as far as the whole engagement/marriage thing goes. I just think she's SO young! (she just turned 20 this summer) I was engaged when I was her age and I am eternally grateful that I didn't go through with it. I'm just worried about her missing out on all of the fun things that life can bring and teach you when you're young, single and trying to figure things out. I really want to be happy for her, but I'm struggling. Any ideas to help me get over it?
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Hey I was two years younger than her when I got engaged and had been married a year and a half by the time I was her age. I wouldn't trade the time I have had with Matt for anything. I loved my one year of being single and learning but I love the opportunity I have had to learn and grow with my husband. I don't know if that helps but I promise she will be happy and not regret it one bit. I don't AT ALL.
Hey Heather,
My sister and Mom had similar feelings about me when I got married. I was just 20 (almost 21, though...) and they were really worried about me being too young.
I guess the best way to look at it is that it's true that some people get married at 20 and get divorced, but some people get married at 40 and still get divorced. So just because she's young, doesn't necessarily mean anything, it just means they'll grow and mature together (hopefully) instead of separately.
As for her missing out on experiencing life, that's true to an extent...when you get married you give up a lot of your social life, etc. but on the flipside, this past year I think I have experienced more awesome things with my husband than I ever would've as a single girl (neat vacations together, learning how to cook :), always having someone be there for you and do things with you, etc.) As well as the fact that now we have the opportunity to start a family, build a home together, etc. Which is really important to me, personally.
Sorry for this uber-long post, but I just want you to know that you don't need to worry about her. :) Every marriage is hard and takes a lot of adjusting, but I'd say they're gonna be just fine. :)
And honestly...if she was 22 or 23 or even 27, would it really make THAT much difference to you as her big sister? You are always going to be worried about her and want to look out for her. :)
Congrats to your sister, by the way. :)
nope. no ideas. they are too young. sorry i'm no help. don't get me wrong, i was a young bride, and i'm very, VERY happy. but i know a lot of couples who have struggled, and i think age is a factor in those circumstances.
hey i have an idea. why don't you go find someone to marry and then the two of you can help each other through the valleys. maybe track down the grandpa who asked for your hand in marriage at work. he he.
i got engaged and married when i was 19!! never looked back since and couldn't be happier!!! i think it's definitely a personal decision for everyone because everyone obviously has different personalities and goes through different experiences, and i think when you know, you know. so if she knows good for her!!
like Dani said, you still experience a lot after being married, just different stuff. and in my opinion, it's SO much more fun because you get to do everything with the person you LOVE!!
good luck with it, hope you feel better & congrats to your cute sister!
I was engaged at 18 and married at 19. (my husband said he wouldn't marry an 18 year old...) To be honest I look back and I miss the experiences I could have had at college and dating different people. I met kurt one month after I graduated high school and knew he was the one I would marry, so why waste any more time?
However, I love getting to experience all these new life experiences with my eternal guy. He's the one captured in the pictures of my favorite activities, if I would have had those experiences with an old boyfriend then I would have had to throw them out when I got married. Wouldn't want to upset the husband with past boyfriends.... :)
As far as your current situation, you can talk to your sister and let her know your feelings, but make sure that she knows you are happy for her, cuz she's going to be married whether you're supportive or not, and wouldn't you rather have her think of her wedding as a happy time as opposed to something her sister didn't think was a good idea?
Love you girl! Good luck!
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